Shy Preschoolers

Some children are shy. They “hang back” in groups. They need your assistance to learn how to become comfortable talking and playing with others.

The main things to remember when trying to help a child like this to cope with new situations are:

  • Don’t label a child “shy” or introduce your child as a “shy child.” Sometimes children will define themselves as this and never move beyond the label.
  • Don’t push your child into situations that he might find overwhelming. It’s important that you accept your child’s nature and help him develop ways to overcome his shyness – that may take time and patience. Instead of pushing, offer your child opportunities to be involved with others with your support.
  • Prepare your child ahead of time by talking about new situations, such as what she will encounter, or who may be there, and talk with her about ways to become involved in groups.
  • Don’t nag your child about being shy. Parents who get irritable or impatient with a child’s shyness may find that their child reacts by being even shyer.

Remember, every child is unique. Some children will be shy, to a greater or lesser degree, all their lives. It’s important for them to feel valued for who they are.